I hope you all had a good weekend and you are refreshed and blessed! 🙂 I am. I’m taking it very, very easy as I recuperate from my surgery. I’m just glad I’m allowed to leave the house for a change, even though I probably won’t. Humidity in Los Angeles is no joke.
I wanted to take time out to address the controversy surrounding the upcoming book in the D’Amato Brothers series – Where I Wanna Be (WIWB). Normally, I wouldn’t do this and I actually prefer not to. I would like to think my work speaks for itself with no further explanation required. That doesn’t seem to be the case with this book.
There seems to be an interesting rumor going around that WIWB is a cheating story. I have never said that it was. I have never implied that it was. I have been very clear that it’s not a story condoning cheating but rather, a story about a man who’s having a midlife crisis and he’s not even 30. I have never written cookie-cutter romances and I’m not about to start. The story, for which I’m glad, has seemed to open a dialogue on what is acceptable behavior, what is considered to be cheating, and what is not.
Why does the definition of cheating vary? Why do women have certain limits? Why is one form more forgiving than another? Why is the other woman looked as a whore but not the man involved? Isn’t he just as guilty? Why are women who take back their significant others are looked as insecure women, and not as women who are forgiving and understanding? I find it amusing there are people who refuse to read WIWB but somehow cheer on Olivia Pope every week on Scandal. Is cheating okay depending on the participants? Is it more acceptable if it’s two people you want to see together? Why, as a society, do we frown upon cheating in certain situations but accept it in others?
That’s the point of Where I Wanna Be. It’s to open dialogue and get you talking. A woman’s reaction to infidelity is quite unpredictable and varies from person to person. If she has no reaction, is she in denial? Is she has an extreme reaction, is she bitter and scorned? Does the Christian faith play a role in how we should treat others? What if the Other Woman wasn’t the villain? What if she was the victim?
It is not to say Simone doesn’t have her faults and she’s innocent. She very well knew what she was doing when Eli approached her. At what point is it strictly the man’s fault and at what point is it the Other Woman’s fault? What role does the wife play? What role does the marriage play?
Originally I based Simone’s character off a former acquaintance that I knew, who openly (and proudly) bragged about her affair with a married man, even so much bringing him home to meet her children (insert major eye-roll to that fuckery here) and letting him bring his baby over as well (are you done eye-rolling yet?). I decided after careful consideration, I needed to revise that. Simone’s character is educated and well-traveled; my former acquaintance was not. I had to think, why would an educated woman, who is capable of getting her own man, settle for a married one? Under what circumstances could that possibly happen?
WIWB isn’t a feel-good, predictable, awe-shucks-type of romance. It’s supposed to make you think, wonder, debate with your friends, have a heavy discussion in your book club. What would you do if you were in that situation? How would you possibly react? What if you had a child together? What if you shared everything together? What if millions of dollars were at stake? What if…you both wanted to work things out but just don’t know where to start?
I had to rewrite WIWB because of a certain scene (and I sincerely thank the participants of My Wine Club has a Book Problem for their input), so WIWB is on scheduled to be released finally (seriously this time), this month. Yes, June. That’s a long way from March and April, yes I know. But the book is also 125K words and still has a starting price of $4.49 (before the increase to $5.99) with several book giveaways. You’re welcome.
I hope this post clears up a lot of things. Again, I don’t bite (unless you want me to and you’re into that type of thing). If you have any questions or concerns, you can e-mail me directly. As many readers know, I do respond to my e-mails and I will be open and honest with you.
Stay Beautiful family,