I read something that gave me the sads…a fellow erotica/erotic romance writer left the church she and her family belonged to because of the judgment of her career as an erotica author. It’s very sad to me. What does her profession have to do with her being a good person? What does it have to do with being a Christian? Is she harming anyone? Is she killing anyone? Is anyone suffering from what she is doing?
Is being an erotica author a part of the Ten Commandments? Thou shall not write sexually explicit literature?
This topic reminds me of a post I read last year on Facebook, telling me the wildly popular series, 50 Shades of Grey, was going to ruin my marriage. Say what? Okay, let’s start with the first obvious question: did the author of said post actually read the books? Second, and also obvious: how in the hell are those books going to ruin my marriage? Are you spying on us? Is there a camera installed somewhere in my bedroom I didn’t know about? If so, please tell me so I can wink for you next time.
Back to the issue, I feel the discrimination goes against what Jesus did. This was a man who willingly and openly hung out with prostitutes and the diseased, treating them like they were his own. He didn’t care about their background or how they got to that point in their lives; he just wanted to see who they were at the moment. One of my friends who is a pastor, is well aware of what I do and he still accepts donations from us, knowing exactly where that money came from. Truth to be told, if you donate money to a cause, the people receiving it usually don’t care where it comes from.
My long-winded point is erotica/erotic romance authors often get a bad rep because people think all we write is porn (which is totally different from erotica, btw) and because that’s “all” we write about, that’s what our entire lives must be consisted of. Maybe that’s the case for a few, but it’s definitely not the case for the majority. A lot of us are older, with children, some even with grandchildren. Quite a few have full-time jobs and other responsibilities. I know several volunteer and give back to their communities whenever they have a chance. My husband and I regularly donate to our local food bank and various charities such as St. Jude’s Children’s Hospital and March of Dimes. In the private book club I host, I have an anti-shading/bashing policy – if you don’t like an author’s book, fine, but don’t say anything bad about that particular author. Just because you didn’t like their book or any of their work, it doesn’t make them a bad person.
Not all of my friends read my work, simply because they just don’t read, LOL. But a few of them know what I do and for those who don’t know and are interested, I do tell them, ‘Okay, just to warn you, I write erotica so if that’s not your cup of tea, you won’t offend me by declining.’ Surprisingly, I’ve had more interested than not. I do honestly believe it’s because the people who know me and know what I’m about, know that me being an erotica writer is just a small part of the whole package. The readers who have gotten to know me can testify that I’m a pretty nice person, if I say so myself. We don’t always talk about my books (I actually prefer not to). We often have conversations on favorite shows, what’s going on in our lives, what’s the weather like where we’re located, and favorite types of music.
Just get to know us. You might find us charming. 🙂
And there you have it,