Vera Commentary: Is 2010 the Year of the Jump-Off?

Alicia Keys, Fantasia, LeeAnn Rimes, and Sandra Bullock. All are very talented women. All are very much in the public eye. All have another thing in common: they met their current or former mates as being The Other Woman. (Yes, for those who don’t know, Sandra Bullock started dating a very-much married Jesse James when he was still with porn star Janine.) Recently, Fantasia was hospitalized with what is being reported as a suicide attempt due to the attention she is getting from being sued by her lover’s ex-wife.

Lately, the news has sensationalized broken marriages. While this is nothing new—after all, scandal sells—it is has become a bit of the norm. Every day there is someone getting caught doing something with someone else that isn’t their partner. Every day, people are shocked. Every day, the other party comes out to tell their side of the pathetic story. It normally starts out with something along the lines of ‘I didn’t mean for it to go this far’ or my personal favorite, ‘They were already broken up before we got together.’

With all of this gossip, it does make me wonder: Is 2010 the Year of the Jump-Off?

One of Tiger Woods' first mistresses to step forward, Jaimee has very unsuccessfully tried to build a Hollywood career. I guess her fake stint on Tool Academy didn't help?

Personally, I’m annoyed with the attention broken marriages are getting. If someone cheated on someone else, let’s not sensationalize it. After all, there is another person involved and sometimes children. I remember the huge scandal years ago regarding tabloid favorites Angelina Jolie/Brad Pitt/Jennifer Aniston. Even today, the gossip mags are still talking about it as if they were the ones married to Brad Pitt. (Don’t believe me? The next time you’re in the store, pick up a magazine cover with Jennifer or Angelina on it and count how many times Brad is mentioned in the article.)

Jump-Offs have become much more brazen. If a celeb or athlete does her wrong, there’s a guaranteed press conference with Gloria Allred in her future. Text messages aren’t private. Dick report details sound a lot like my fiction. But what really trips me out is how the jump-off really doesn’t see how any of this mess is her fault?

Oh, get the fuck out of here with that bullshit!

Fantasia reportedly got this tattoo of her married boyfriend right after he moved into her home in December 2009. They began dating in August 2009 and he left his wife and two children that following November.

Look, sleeping with a married man—no matter how fucked up his marriage is or what he tells you about it—is wrong. If he is still married to someone else and you’re sucking his cock, that’s cheating. (And yes, for the smart ones out there, being separated is still being married. Definition of single = not married. No ifs, ands or buts about it.) If a man can’t respect his marriage, he damn sure isn’t going to respect you. If he’ll cheat with you, he’ll cheat on you.

This posting isn’t directed to anyone in particular; I just had to get some ish off my chest. To all the Jump-Offs out there, here’s a warning for you: karmic retribution is nothing to play with. What you give to the Earth is what you get back from it. Messing around with someone’s husband will bring karma to you in ways you would never comprehend. If you want a man, get your own but leave the married men alone. He’s not worth the bullshit. Let his wife deal with his shit.

And with that, I’m done!

-V.